Year after year we make resolutions and promises to ourselves that THIS will be the year. THIS will be the year that we will pursue our dreams; THIS will be the year that we will be happy. But year after year these promises fall short, and we go on living unfulfilling lives.
It’s not that we don’t want to be happy.
It’s not that we can’t pursue our dreams.
It’s because there is something standing in our way that we are unwilling to face.
Whether it disguises itself as procrastination, forgetfulness, doubt, lack of time, or its many other incarnations… it’s always FEAR hiding behind the curtains.
Fear is what stands in the way of our dreams. Fear is what stops us from living the fulfilling, happy life that we so deserve. That YOU deserve.
“Never let your fear decide your fate.”
But it’s not fear itself that is the problem. It’s our responses to fear which are the problem.
You are a living human being, and when new experiences (or even just the thought of one) arise, fear is a natural reaction. It keeps us on our toes. Its original purpose was to keep us alive… to make us aware of our surroundings and to warn us of what might happen.
But somewhere along the line, we forgot how to work with our fears and use it to propel us forward.
Instead, most of us deny our fear. Ignore it. Which stops us from living to our full potential, numbing out our pain and suffering with tv, the internet, addictions, or other behaviors leading us to live dull, unfulfilling, and sometimes harmful lives.
We convince ourselves that we’ll start painting when the kids move out of the house, we’ll follow our passions “after things settle down a bit”, or we’ll start that blog we dreamt about when “we’re ready”.
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears” ~Les Brown
But the truth is, that perfect time may never arrive, and you’re just throwing your life’s potential away because you’re afraid of it.
You’ll never have enough money, enough time, or enough support to follow your dreams. And we ALL will always have fear to overcome.
Fear is a healthy emotion that you need to work through.
Once you realize this and stop buying into the fact that fear is wrong or something to be avoided; then it will loosen its tight grip and you will essentially become more “fearless”.
So this year, instead of making resolutions that never last, and making excuses for not following your dreams and passions, it’s time to step up and face those fears.
Identify them, acknowledge them, then move on anyway towards what you know will make you happier.
This year, make a resolution to practice courage.
Because once you start swapping your usual response to fear with practicing courage, things will change exponentially in your life.
But that’s not to say practicing courage is easy. Like the name suggests, it takes practice. And a little encouragement, accountability, and community couldn’t hurt either. Which is why I’ve decided to start up a new series called “Fearless Fridays”.
Let us gather with courage. Let’s put our fears out in the open, talk about them, and let them loosen their grips on our lives. Let us swap stories, give encouragement, and lift each other up on this courageous journey we call life.
Here’s how it will work:
- Every Friday I will post a story, feature, or words of encouragement here on the blog or on my facebook page.
- You are free to simply use it as a gentle reminder to keep practicing courage in your life, or join in with a story or words of encouragement of your own in the comments section.
- If that week you have written about facing your fears in respect to following your goals and dreams in life, or perhaps practiced courage in your art, feel free to leave us a link with your comment.
- I encourage you to visit and comment on the links posted by everyone each week to support each other in this journey. Also, feel free to reply to other’s comments to add to the conversation.
- If you share a link to your blog, please link back. You can grab a badge HERE.
- There will not be a specific theme each week, as everyone’s fears and goals are different. This is simply to help you to practice courage daily in your life, and to bring all of you amazing women together for support.
You are not alone in facing your fears. Bring them out in the open, face them, and get the support you need to muster up the courage to move past them and start living the happy fulfilling live you deserve.
Are you ready to make the resolution?
It’s time to shine to your life’s fullest potential!
In the comments below, dream big and tell me… What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail, or if fear wasn’t standing in your way?
PS I'd like to thank Jess Yelvington for coming up with the wonderful idea, and Andrea Saccone Snyder for coming up with the name "Fearless Fridays". Thank you girls!